We'd gone to High School together. We were friends, but not close. We hung around with the same group of people. I'm sure we talked from time to time.
We hadn't spoken in years. Many, many years.
And she contacted me. Out of the blue.
We had a long talk. She'd lived overseas. She had lots of stories to tell. She told me about her work -- which was interesting. Something I may have thought years earlier I could have done, but now have zero interest in.
It was a great conversation. We vowed to keep in touch.
Jenny told me that she'd always remembered something I said to her.
And she told me what the thing was.
I didn't remember it -- although I recognized it as the type of thing I would have said.
"I thought about what you told me every day for ten years," she said. "It inspired me and helped me make myself who I am."
Which I'm happy about.
Except.
I don't remember saying it. I'm sure I did -- but it didn't register for me.
Even though it clearly registered for her.
But that's not the worst of it.
I knew Jenny's name. I could almost remember what she was like.
But I couldn't picture her. I knew the associations. Knew the connections. Knew the people.
But I couldn't remember which one she was.
That part of the puzzle is a blank for me.
Like the words I said.
And I don't feel good about this.
Because it makes me wonder. What else I've forgotten.
And what else was vital to others and barely registered for me.
There are a lot of things lately making me feel a lot older than I am.
Hopefully, that will happen for a great many years to come.
This Neil Young song is 33 years old. He was 33 when it came out:
"When you're gone," he sings, "you can't come back."
Then how do you explain this new video from the Rolling Stones?
The Rolling Stones are starting their SIXTH DECADE as a band. And even though their artistic peak may have been 40 years or more in the past... this gives me hope.
(And reminds me to use drop-cloths when painting...)